- About three years ago I decided to buy a house by myself. I was surprised by the number of people who questioned my ability to buy a house as a single woman, without a man to help. It was even more shocking how many people couldn't believe that I bought a single family house with a yard and assumed I must have landscapers to do the yard work. At my closing, when I walked in and sat down the selling lawyer even said "do you want to wait for your husband to get here?" I was very offended that people believed that because I was a woman I couldn't buy a house, let alone a single family house without the assistance of a man. This diminished some of the excitement and pride I had in my independence and even made me question the fact that I was still single.
- I think that society needs to realize that times have changed and many women complete college, have careers and want to own property without needing others assistance. If people can start to see all genders as equal I feel that there will be more women that will feel like they can do things like buy a house even though they are single. I have to say that every time I get out my lawnmower or my tool set, I get a small smile across my face that I am doing this all by myself and that this is something to be proud of not ashamed by!
Saturday, December 8, 2012
The Personal Side of Bias, Prejudice and Oppression
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Candice,
ReplyDeleteGood perspective and congratulations on being a home owner! There are things that individuals need help with, but not because they are male or female rather because of personal skills or limitations.
And, by the way, I get that same smile on my face every time I fire up our riding lawn mower and mow our 2 acre yard!
Candice,
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on being a home owner. It is a big responsibility and something to be proud of! It must have been difficult to have people assume you were married or needed the help of a man! Your experience is a good example of a microaggression as well. While he may not have intended to be offensive his comment impacted you deeper. Thanks for sharing such a personal story!